We all have a gremlin living in our heads. It’s that inner voice that loves to point out everything that’s wrong with you. It can be critical, sarcastic, and sometimes just flat-out rude. The worst part is that it sounds like you, which makes its nonsense feel credible even when it has no right to be in charge. Your gremlin thinks it’s protecting you. It wants to keep you safe from embarrassment or disappointment. “Don’t ask for a raise. You [...]
There was a time in my life when I believed failure was the enemy. Like Voldemort, I thought it was the thing whose name must not be spoken. I didn’t just avoid failure. I pretended it didn’t exist. I thought that if I simply believed hard enough, smiled big enough, and kept my thoughts squeaky clean, failure wouldn’t dare come near me. This was during a time in my life when self-improvement books were basically my religion. The Power of [...]
There’s a funny thing about the choices that shape our lives. Most of them aren’t dramatic. They’re not epic moments with fireworks or inspirational music swelling in the background. They’re tiny. Quiet. Almost forgettable. And most of them are easy. One of my strategies for a happier life is to understand that the actions that lead to success are actually pretty easy to do. And they’re also easy not to do. And that simple idea has shaped a lot of [...]
This is my dog, Maggie. Every time I walk through the door, she greets me with a smile. And yes, that’s a real smile, not a snarl. One night I came home from a long work trip. The travel had been stressful, I was wiped out, and honestly, I just wanted to crash. But the second I opened the door, Maggie lost her mind with excitement. She jumped, wagged her tail, whined, and basically threw me the best welcome-home party [...]
When cancer came into my life, I made a decision. It wasn’t going to steal my joy. Instead of thinking, “I have to go through major surgery,” I chose to think, “I get to have a major surgery that’ll save my life.” Instead of focusing on the medical bills, I focused on how lucky I was to have insurance that helped cover most of them. Instead of thinking about dying, I was grateful to be living. That’s the power of [...]
Every now and then, life gives us a choice. We can stay comfortable and safe, or we can lean into something that scares us a little. Most people think fear is a bad thing, but sometimes it’s just a signal that something exciting and meaningful is waiting on the other side. The truth is, your comfort zone might feel nice, but it can quietly hold you back. It’s like sitting in a parking lot while the road to adventure is [...]
You’ve probably met someone who has that rare ability to make you feel genuinely good after a conversation. You leave thinking, “I don’t even know what it is about them, but I like being around them.” The secret usually comes down to one simple strategy. They focus on you. This idea comes straight from Dale Carnegie’s classic How to Win Friends and Influence People. He called it “talking in terms of the other person’s interests.” Nearly a century later, it [...]
